Our first time of Independence

Koushik got a job in Ahmedabad and we had to move out of Bharuch. This would mean that now we would have to live a life by ourselves. Just the two of us. We rented a house in Ahmedabad. It used to be fun there. We had only one vehicle so I used to leave him to office everyday and then go for a house hunt. Till we got a house there we were staying at a friends place. We got a house and shifted there. It was a nice house. So I used to leave him for work eacn dday and then go to pick him up in the evenings. I was also studying for another attempt. Koushik had by now given up hopes of me qualifying as in each attempt I seemed to perform worse that the earlier. The job that he was in was somehow not vey satisfying and he seemed unhappy in it. He had to get out of there as soon as he could. Also we did not like the place much. Like a blessing in disguise he got a job offer in Baroda. It was too good and he was getting a great jump and hike. It was too difficult for him to believe that he was so lucky as he always believed that he had unlucky stars. I remember even when he had got selected in the interview and all was final he was so unsure because he thought that he would probably get unqualified in the medical test. But nothing like that happened and he got through the interview well. Now it was time to move to Baroda. Ahmedabad was not very good for us but as far as my CA was concerned it seemed to be a bit lucky place as I cleared one group.

A new beginning

Life changes for every girl after her wedding. She has to get adjusted to an entire new world.New people and all. Soon after our wedding was over we went to Karvar for our Honeymoon. It was a beautiful place. We were back by the 4th of Feb as he had to join office as it was his new job. Then I came to Pune for a week and then I had to go back for good. This time when I came to Pune it was quite saddening as I knew that now I could not come as and when I please. Also I knew that dad would be alone now. I went back from Pune and had to start a family. We ahd a separate house as my in laws thought that we needed our independence. But it was all in vain as I would go to their house as soon as Koushik would leave for work. Then I would come back in the evening when he would pick me up from work after office. We would also stay there over the weekends. We spent most of our time in his parents’ house. His brother also used to be there then . he was a total fun loved person and it used to be fun with him around. And the best was that now we both ( I and his brother) had to complete our CA together. Life went on well. I kept studying … atleast that is what I claimed for my exams. But I did not clear the attempt that May as well. But now I could say that I had a lot of responsibilities (not that I had really any) and so it was difficult to clear my attempt. Time kept flying and now it was time for us to move out of Bharuch.

Life had to change

I could not come to terms with the fact that mom was no more there. I had become quite unmanageable for my father. He too was totally broken. But life had to go on . As it is rightly said time and tides wait for no man. Nothing had come to a standstill other than dad and my state of mind. It all had to be changed. In the meanwhile koushik also got a job in Bharuch. Marriage was something which was just not on my mind then. Also he had just got a job and so he felt that he should first save some money at least for simple reasons that when I ask him something he should not need to ask his dad for money. He had got a job in October. So nowi knew it would be difficult for him to come as well. I don’t know what came to my father in laws mind but soon they came over home and started discussing our wedding. My father also soon jumped to the idea of a wedding that could be held soon. Of course initially his mother was not very happy as it was a sudden decision that we should get married soon. After consulting the Pandits and all the date was finally decided as 23rd of Jan 2004. All preparations had to be done. For me and my father it was a bit difficult as we had just come out of the shock. Not that we wanted a grand wedding but my father is insisted that it had to be done the traditional way. The hall was fixed. I had to do a lot of things myself as there was no executor in our family. My dad was not a very good executor.
The d day finally arrived and the wedding was held. It was a great feeling that I was going to my loves house for good. It was held the Iyengar way. I had most of my relatives who had come over. Most of the people thought that since my mom was not there I should not feel left alone so they all turned up. We had a house full of people. It was a great feeling getting married to him. Loads of stuff to be taken over was there. A lot of packing was involved.
the wedding went off well . Koushik had very high fever and it was very difficult for him to sit through he whole thing. But he did sit through the whole thing. When he tied the taali around my neck there was no end to which I missed my mother because I knew how happy she would have been to witness the whole thing. But atleast there was an assurance for me that she knew the person whom I was getting married to and she also liked him a lot. Well the wedding was over and it was time to say good bye to all.